Zokhudza Ma Lesbian ndi Kodi Azimayi Amagonana Naye Motani?

A lesibiyani ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mkazi. Mawu lesibiyani Amagwiritsidwanso ntchito kwa amayi molingana ndi awo chiwerewere or khalidwe la kugonana, osatengera kuti kugonana, kapena ngati chiganizo chofotokozera kapena kugwirizanitsa mayina ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Lingaliro la "malesbian" kuti asiyanitse akazi omwe ali ndi malingaliro ogonana omwe adayambira m'zaka za zana la 20. M’mbiri yonse ya anthu, akazi sanakhale ndi ufulu kapena ufulu wofanana ndi amuna wofuna kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma sanalandire chilango chokhwima chofanana ndi cha amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha m’madera ena. M'malo mwake, maubwenzi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri amawonedwa ngati opanda vuto, pokhapokha ngati otenga nawo mbali ayesa kunena za mwayi womwe amuna amasangalalira nawo.

Chotsatira chake n’chakuti, pang’ono m’mbiri yonse ya mbiri yakale inalembedwa kupereka malongosoledwe olondola a mmene kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kunasonyezedwera. Pamene molawirira ofufuza za kugonana chakumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 19 anayamba kugawa ndi kufotokoza khalidwe logonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, lolepheretsedwa ndi kusowa chidziwitso chokhudza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena kugonana kwa akazi, iwo ankasiyanitsa akazi ndi amuna omwe satsatira akazi. chikhalidwe maudindo. Anawaika m'gulu la odwala misala - dzina lomwe lasinthidwa kuyambira kumapeto kwa zaka za zana la 20 m'gulu la asayansi padziko lonse lapansi.

Azimayi omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ku Ulaya ndi ku United States adayankha kusalidwa ndi kuponderezedwa mwina pobisala miyoyo yawo, kapena kuvomereza kuti ndi wotayika komanso kupanga chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe. amadziwikira. Kutsatira Nkhondo Yachiwiri Yapadziko Lonse, panthaŵi ya chitsenderezo cha anthu pamene maboma ankazunza mokangalika anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, akazi anayamba kupanga ma intaneti kuti azicheza ndi kuphunzitsana. Kupeza ufulu wokulirapo wachuma ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu kunawalola kusankha momwe angapangire maubwenzi ndi mabanja.

ndi yachiwiri yoweyula feminism ndi kukula kwa maphunziro mu mbiri ya akazi ndi kugonana kumapeto kwa zaka za zana la 20, tanthauzo la lesibiyani kukulitsa, zomwe zimadzetsa mkangano wa kagwiritsidwe ntchito ka mawuwa. Pamene kafukufuku ndi Lisa M. Diamond anazindikira chilakolako chogonana monga chigawo chachikulu chofotokozera amuna omwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amayi ena omwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukana osati kungodziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma bisexual komanso. Kudzizindikiritsa kwa amayi ena kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikungagwirizane ndi zomwe amakonda kapena zomwe amagonana. Kuzindikirika pakugonana sikufanana kwenikweni ndi zomwe munthu amakonda pakugonana, chifukwa cha zifukwa zosiyanasiyana, monga kuopa kuzindikira zomwe amakonda pakugonana. ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kukhazikitsidwa.

Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira

Kugonana koyamba zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa pang'ono, ziribe kanthu kuti ndinu ndani kapena mukufuna kugona naye.

Popeza kuti pali zikhulupiriro zambiri komanso malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndikofunikira kuti mudziphunzitse momwe kugonana kungagwire ntchito komanso momwe mungachitire zogonana motetezeka.

Nazi zomwe muyenera kudziwa. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Munthu aliyense atha kukhala ndi mtundu uliwonse wogonana

Tisanayambe kukambirana zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, tiyeni tikambirane tanthauzo lake.

Nthawi zambiri anthu amagwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" pogonana pakati pa akazi awiri. Ngati ndi choncho, kumbukirani kuti amayiwo sangazindikire kuti ndi akazi okhaokha.

Mwachitsanzo, atha kudzifotokoza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna okhaokha, amuna okhaokha, akazi okhaokha, kapenanso amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kugonana pakati pa akazi sikumangokhalira akazi okhaokha. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Komanso, kumbukirani kuti "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" sikungokhala kwa ma cisgender okha.

Zimaphatikizaponso anthu ena omwe ali ndi nyini, anthu okhala ndi mbolo, komanso anthu omwe ali ndi maliseche ogonana.

Mwachitsanzo, amuna ndi akazi amatha kugonana mkamwa, pamanja, kapenanso kulowa mkati. Zonse zimatengera banja ndi zomwe amakonda kuchita. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Mofananamo, kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha - kapena kugonana pakati pa akazi, kaya cis kapena transgender - kungaphatikizepo mtundu uliwonse wa kugonana womwe mukufuna kuyesa. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Kugonana kumatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana

Kudzera kusukulu, atolankhani, ndi madera athu, ambiri a ife timaphunzira kuti kugonana ndi mbolo yomwe imalowa mu nyini.

Ngakhale anthu ambiri amangowona kugonana kwa mbolo / nyini ngati kugonana "kwenikweni", tanthauzo la kugonana ndimadzimadzi. Kugonana kumatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana.

Nayi mndandanda wosakwanira wazomwe mungawerengere kuti ndi zogonana kwa inu:

1. zachiwerewere zogonana kunyini, mbolo, kapena kumatako

2. zogonana zamanja, kuphatikiza ntchito zamanja, zala, kusewera, kusewera kumatako, ndi kumenya zibakera

3. sewere ndi bere la mawere

4. mbolo mu nyini

5. mbolo-mu-kumatako kugonana

6. kugwiritsa ntchito zoseweretsa zogonana

7. kuseweretsa maliseche

8. kusisita kumaliseche

9. kupsompsonana ndi kukumbatirana

Ndiye zomwe zimawerengedwa ngati "kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" zilidi kwa munthu amene amazichita. Mutha kufotokozera kugonana mokulirapo kapena mochepera momwe mukufunira! (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Musakhulupirire zonse zomwe mwamva

Pali zonena zabodza zokhudzana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Nazi zina:

• Wina ayenera kukhala "mwamunayo" pamwambapa. Anthu ena amakhulupilira kuti m'modzi ndiye amachita zonse pomwe wina amangolandira. Izi ndizovuta kwa maanja ena, koma osati onse - ndipo kumbukirani, kulowa sikukupanga kukhala "mwamuna." (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)
• Ndiosavuta chifukwa nonse ndinu akazi. Kumbukirani kuti chifukwa chakuti nonse ndinu akazi sizikutanthauza kuti muli ndi maliseche ofanana - mwachitsanzo, munthu mmodzi akhoza kukhala mkazi wa cis ndi nyini, pamene wina akhoza kukhala mkazi wodutsa ndi mbolo. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi maliseche ofanana, thupi lililonse ndi losiyana. Zimene mnzawo amaona kuti n’zosangalatsa, wina angaone kuti n’zotopetsa. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)
• Muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito lamba. Zingwe ndizoseweretsa zogonana zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala ngati mbolo. Amadziphatika m'chiuno cha mnzake pogwiritsa ntchito chovala kapena chovala chovala chovala chovala mkati. Zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito kudutsa mu nyini kapena kumatako. Ngakhale izi zingakhale zosangalatsa, sizoyenera kukhala nazo. Kaya mumagwiritsa ntchito imodzi zili ndi inu.
• Muyenera lumo. Scississue ndipamene anthu awiri omwe ali ndi maliseche amatsegula miyendo yawo ndikupaka maliseche awo palimodzi. Ngakhale anthu ena amasangalala ndi izi, ndi nthano yayikulu kuti ma lesibbi onse amachita izi. Anthu ambiri zimawawona ngati zosathandiza komanso zosasangalatsa.
• Orgasm ndiye cholinga chomaliza. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti kugonana kumatha pamene m'modzi kapena onse awiri ali ndi orgasm. Izi siziyenera kukhala choncho. Kugonana kumakhala kosangalatsa popanda kuchita orgasation, ndipo ndikwabwino kusiya kugonana popanda m'modzi kapena nonse kuchita maliseche. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)
• Simuyenera kuda nkhawa za matenda opatsirana pogonana kapena mimba. Ndizotheka kutenga pakati ngati m'modzi ali ndi mbolo pomwe wina ali ndi nyini. Ndikothekanso kufalitsa matenda opatsirana pogonana kuchokera kwa munthu wina kupita kwa mnzake, ngakhale atakhala maliseche.

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Ngati simunakhalepo kale, dziwani bwino momwe thupi lanu limayambira

Kuchita maliseche kumatha kukuthandizani kupumula ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zimakupindulitsani.

Mungapeze kukhala kosangalatsa kudzigwira m’malo ena ndi mayendedwe enaake. Izi zingakuthandizeni kuuza mnzanu zomwe mumakonda. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Ndipo ngati mnzanu ali ndi mawonekedwe ofanana ndi inu, kuseweretsa maliseche kumatha kukuthandizani kuti muziyenda bwino. Ikhozanso kukupatsirani lingaliro labwino lazomwe angakonde.

Kumbukirani kuti aliyense ndi wosiyana. Zomwe zili zosangalatsa kwa wina sizingakhale zosangalatsa kwa wina. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Khalani okonzeka kulankhulana ndi mnzanu

Kupempha chilolezo ndikofunikira kwambiri.

Ngakhale mnzanuyo wanena kale kuti akufuna kugonana, ndikofunikira kuti mufufuze nthawi isanakwane.

Kumbukirani kuti iwo, monga inu, ali ndi ufulu wochotsa chilolezo chanu panthawi yogonana. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Ngati mukuchita mantha, lankhulani ndi mnzanu za izi. Gawani ngati simunagonepo kapena kuchita zachiwerewere kale.

Afunseni zomwe amakonda kuchita kapena zomwe angafune kuyesa, kapena kugawana nawo malingaliro anu. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Sindikudziwa choti ndinene? Nawa mawu omwe mungagwiritse ntchito musanagonane kapena mukamagonana:

• Kodi ndingakupsompsone?
• Kodi tingachite [zogonana]?
• Kodi ndingakuvule zovala?
• Kodi mukufuna kugonana?
• Ndikufuna kuchita [zogonana]. Mukuganiza chiyani?
• Kodi mukusangalala?
• Ndiyime?
• Kodi ndinu omasuka ndi izi?

Simuyenera kulingalira za zomwe mnzanu amachita kapena sakufuna.

Nthawi zonse muzikumana nawo ndipo muwafunse zomwe akufuna musanapite kumalo ena.

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Zomwe mungayembekezere pamasewera ndi mawere

Kumbukirani kuti anthu ena ali ndi nsonga zamabele, choncho khalani ofatsa ndikufunsani okondedwa anu momwe akufunira kuti mugwiritse ntchito.

Kusewera mawere ndi mawere kungaphatikizepo:

• kusisita mawere pakati pa zala zakutsogolo
• mokoka mawere
• kunyambita, kuyamwa, kapena kupsompsona mawere kapena mabere
• kugwiritsa ntchito zoseweretsa zachiwerewere pamabele, monga zolumikizira mawere, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator kapena nthenga zonyamula pamabele
• kugwiritsa ntchito madzi oundana kapena tingling ting'onoting'ono kuti mupange zokopa chidwi (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Zomwe mungayembekezere kuchokera pakukopa pamanja kapena kumatako

Ngati mnzanu ali ndi nyini

Zokopa pamanja ndi zogwiritsa ntchito manja anu kusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu. Yesetsani kusuntha kosiyanasiyana, mitundu ingapo yamavuto, komanso kuthamanga kosiyanasiyana.

Kutengera mawonekedwe ndi zomwe amakonda, mutha kuyesa:

• kusisita nkongo wawo poyesa kuzungulira kozungulira komanso kuthamanga pamiyeso ndi zikakamizo zosiyanasiyana
• kugwiritsa ntchito chala kuti apeze malo awo a G, khungu lolimba m'mbali mwa nyini
• kugwira mopepuka malo ozungulira clitori kapena nyini mwa kuseketsa (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Motani?)
• kukhudza khungu kunja kwa anus yawo
• kulowa kumatako ndi zala zanu (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Ngati mnzanu ali ndi mbolo

Pali njira zambiri zolimbikitsira pamanja munthu yemwe ali ndi mbolo. Malingaliro ena ndi awa:

• kugwira ntchito yamanja pogwira mbolo yawo molimba ndikuyendetsa dzanja lanu mmwamba ndi pansi; funsani mnzanu kuti ndi liwiro liti ndi kukakamizidwa komwe angafune
• kusisita pang'ono kapena kusisita mutu wawo
• kukhudza ndikupaka chikopa chawo ndi perineum, omwe ndi malo pakati pa scrotum ndi anus
• kugwira pakhungu kunja kwa ntchafu yawo (Kodi Azimayi Amagonana Nawo Bwanji?)
• kulowerera mu anus awo ndi zala zanu

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Zomwe mungayembekezere pakubwezeretsa m'kamwa kapena kumatako

Kukondoweza pakamwa ndizomwe zimamveka, kugwiritsa ntchito pakamwa panu ndi lilime kuti musangalatse mnzanu.

Ngati mnzanu ali ndi nyini

Mutha kupsompsona, kunyambita, kapena kuyamwa:

• clitoris
• malo mozungulira nkongo kapena nyini
• kutsegula kwa nyini
• ntchafu zamkati
• chotulukira

Ngati mnzanu ali ndi mbolo

Mutha kupsompsona, kunyambita, kapena kuyamwa:

• mbolo
• scrotum ndi perineum
• ntchafu zamkati
• chotulukira

Zomwe mungayembekezere kuchokera pachala, kumenya nkhonya, ndi kulowerera kwina

Kulowa nthawi zambiri kumayenderana ndi mbolo, koma mutha kulowa kumaliseche kapena kumatako ndi zinthu zingapo zosiyanasiyana, monga zala zanu, nkhonya, kapena chidole chakugonana. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Zam'maso

Kumbukirani kuti kugonana kwa mbolo kumaliseche kumatha kubweretsa mimba, chifukwa chake lankhulani ndi mnzanu za njira zakulera.

Mutha kuyesa:

• mbolo-nyini kumaliseche
• kukodola kumaliseche
• kumenya kumaliseche
• kuyika dildo kapena vibrator

kumatako

Ngati mutagonana kumatako, muyenera kukonzekera pang'ono.

Manja sipanga mafuta ake enieni, choncho ndikofunikira kugwiritsa ntchito mafuta.

Pitani pang'onopang'ono, monga mzere wa makoma a anus ndi woonda kuposa wa nyini. (Kodi Ma Lesbians Amagonana Bwanji?)

Mutha kuyesa:

• mbolo-mu-kumatako kugonana
• chala chakumaso
• kumenya nyerere
• kuyika dildo kapena vibrator
• kugwiritsa ntchito pulagi ya kumatako kapena chidole china chopangidwira anus

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Malo oti muyesere

Pali mwina mazana azigawo zosiyanasiyana zakugonana, koma ino si nthawi yoti muyesere mwayi wanu pa masewera olimbitsa thupi.

Yambani ndi zoyeserera-zowona pansipa ndikusunthira pamenepo.

Pogonana pakamwa kapena pamanja, yesani kugona ndi miyendo yanu mutatseguka

Gona chagada ndi miyendo yotseguka. Ngati zili bwino, mutha kugwada.

Mnzanuyo amatha kugona pamimba pakati pa miyendo yanu.

Pazogonana zamaliseche, abambo nthawi zambiri amagwira ntchito

Amishonale amadziwika kuti ndi osangalatsa - koma sayenera kukhala!

Pamalo amenewa, munthu yemwe ali ndi nyini amagona chagada. Yemwe ali ndi mbolo amagona chafufumimba ndipo amalowetsa mbolo yake kumaliseche kwake.

Ngati mukufuna, mutha kuyika pilo pansi pamiyendo yanu kuti muukweze. Izi zitha kukonza bwino mbali ndikupangitsa kuti zisangalatse nonse.

Kugonana kosaloledwa, kumatako nthawi zambiri kumakhala bwino

Kuti muchite izi, munthu wobowayo amayimirira pamapazi onse anayi atatsegula mawondo ake.

Amatha kukhazika mutu wawo m'manja kapena kuwongola mikono yawo ndikubweza msana wawo molunjika.

Woperekayo amatha kugwada kumbuyo kwawo ndikulowa nawo ku anus ndi zala zawo, mbolo kapena choseweretsa chawo.

Muthanso kuyesa izi kuti mukondweretse m'kamwa.

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Kumbukirani, zochitika zambiri zogonana zimatha kufalitsa matenda opatsirana pogonana

Malinga ndi Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, pafupifupi miliyoni 20 Anthu aku America amatenga matenda opatsirana pogonana chaka chilichonse.

Matenda anu opatsirana pogonana amadalira pazinthu zingapo, kuphatikiza:

• zomwe mukuchita zogonana
• inu nonse mbiri yakugonana
• kaya mumagwiritsa ntchito kondomu kapena njira zina zopinga

Kumbukirani kuti mutha kutenga matenda opatsirana pogonana mosasamala za momwe thupi lanu limakhalira.

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Mimba imatha kuthekanso

Nthawi zambiri anthu amaganiza kuti amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sangatenge mimba kapena kuti kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikungatenge pakati. Ichi ndi nthano yongopeka poganiza kuti azimayi onsewa ndi cisgender.

Ngati mmodzi mwa awiriwa ali ndi transgender ndipo ali ndi mbolo ndipo winayo ndi cisgender ndipo ali ndi nyini, amatha kugonana mkati mwa nyini.

Nthawi zambiri, izi zikutanthauza kuti kutenga pakati ndikotheka.

Ngati mukufuna kupewa kutenga mimba, kambiranani ndi wokondedwa wanu za zakulera.

Izi zitha kuphatikizira kuphatikiza njira zolerera za mahomoni monga mapiritsi ndi makondomu.

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

Momwe mungachitire zogonana motetezeka

Nazi njira zingapo zochepetsera chiopsezo chanu cha matenda opatsirana pogonana ndi matenda ena:

• Madamu a mano. Gwiritsani Ntchito Izi ngati mukugonana mkamwa, kaya mumaliseche kapena kumatako.
• Makondomu akunja. Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito izi pakugonana kwa mbolo, nyini, kapena kugonana mkamwa.
• Makondomu amkati. Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito izi kugonana pogonana kapena kumaliseche kapena kumaliseche.
• Magolovesi kapena machira achala. Izi zitha kukutetezani panthawi yakukondoweza pamanja, monga zala, ntchito zamanja, komanso kukondoweza. Amatha kumva kukhala omasuka akagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi lube.
• Ukhondo wamanja. Pankhani yakukhala ndi zala, kukondoweza, ndi ntchito zamanja, ukhondo wamanja ndikofunikira. Nthawi zonse muzisamba m'manja kuti mupewe kufalitsa majeremusi. Muyeneranso kusunga misomali yanu ngati mukufuna kulowa ndi wina ndi zala zanu. Izi zimathandiza kupewa mabala ndi misozi, zomwe zingakhale zopweteka komanso zimayambitsa matenda. Muthanso kuyika mipira ya thonje mu magolovesi a labala kuti mumve zosiyana.
• Mafuta. Lube ndiwothandiza pakugonana kosalolera kwamtundu uliwonse chifukwa kumachepetsa chiopsezo chong'ambika ndi kukwiya mkati mwa nyini kapena anus. Ndikofunikira makamaka pakugonana kwayamwa chifukwa, mosiyana ndi nyini, anus samadzipangira mafuta ake.
• Sungani zoseweretsa zonse kukhala zoyera. Zoseweretsa zakugonana zitha kusamutsa matenda kuchokera kwa munthu wina kupita kwa mnzake, choncho zoseweretsa zogonana zoyera bwino pakati pagwiritsidwe. Mutha kuganiziranso kuyika kondomu pama dildos ndi zidole zina zolowetsa musanagwiritse ntchito - izi zitha kupangitsa kuti kukhale kosavuta kuyeretsa, komanso kukupatsani chidwi china.
• Kayezetseni pafupipafupi. Kaya muli ndi mnzanu wosagwirizana kapena mumagonana pafupipafupi, kuyezetsa ndikofunikira. Dokotala wanu kapena wothandizira zaumoyo akhoza kukulangizani za momwe mungayesere kangati komanso zomwe muyenera kuyesa.

Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?

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Kodi Lesbians Kugonana?